Here Are The Rules For Fuck Buddies (#3 is law!)

At some point, you’ve wanted to try out or have already had a fuck buddy — a person you only see for sex, no strings attached. Sometimes, however, people get caught up in the sex and end up mistaking it for feelings, or worse, you actually do catch feelings. This only happens, though, if you get into a fuck buddy relationship with someone you already kind of like or have a crush on.
So if you’re looking for tips to maintain a fuck buddy and what exactly you should do to make sure it goes smoothly, I have some rules for you.
1. Have no expectations
Your fuck buddy is not your boyfriend/girlfriend, so it’s important to remember that they don’t have to do anything, nor owe you anything outside of sex, and even then, they still don’t. A good, mutual friends with benefits relationship knows that there should be no expectations on either side to not get disappointed especially if you meet on a casual fuck app.
This means that say you have a great night of sex with your fuck buddy, and then they leave. You should not say something like, “Will you hit me up again soon?” If you don’t hear from them immediately after, it doesn’t mean they’re going to ghost you — people get busy, and besides, they have no attachment to you other than sex, so it’s not like they need to check up with you afterward.
Enjoy the person for the time being, and enjoy the sex you have. It’ll keep coming if you’re both into it and make the most of it.
2. Be respectful

Even though you have no reason to treat this person like a significant other, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat them with basic human decency. That means, don’t share anything they share with you with others, be it nude pics or secrets. What happens in your bedroom (or phone) should stay in the bedroom.
You also shouldn’t mistreat your fuck buddy or fuck with their emotions on purpose. Yes, they know what they’re getting into, but you also don’t need to be a dick. Don’t make them like you more than a fuck buddy, only to turn and break their heart when they start to catch feelings.
3. See other people
I can’t stress how important this rule is. If you end up only ever seeing your fuck buddy and relying on them for sex, you’re bound to become attached to them in some way.
This is why it’s important that you still date around and hook up with other people — after all, you are single! It should be a mutual understanding between the two of you that you’re not exclusive, and you shouldn’t feel some type of way when your fuck buddy hooks up with someone else. Of course, you should be safe, and both parties should disclose of anything they might have caught or have had in the past, but it’s none of your business who they see outside of you.
4. Be honest
Fucking someone with no strings attached ironically gives you a larger responsibility for honesty than some relationships would. You have to be able to express what you’re feeling to your fuck buddy so that things go smoothly and without confusion. If there’s something you don’t like about the relationship, you should tell them. If you’re over and you’re hungry, you should tell them. If you find yourself not wanting to be in a fuck buddy relationship with them anymore, you should tell them.
5. Don’t get too personal
Don’t treat them like they are or let them into your life like they are. Unless you have established the fact that neither of you will catch feelings, and you can trust them as a friend, I’d suggest not inviting them into your personal life.
So don’t bring them around your closest friends and family, and don’t do or share things with them that you would with a partner.

Why Women Should Make The First Move And How To Do It

Something I never understood is the unspoken rule that women don’t make the first move, and that men should be the initiators when it comes to starting a conversation or for sex.
I’ve met lots of women who say “I would never make the first move,” or tell stories about how they went on a date and couldn’t “wait for him to make a move,” and then their utter disappointment when he didn’t.
Or that feeling almost every woman has had when they’re out in public and see the most gorgeous man they’ve ever laid eyes on, and just hoped he would approach her, but all that happens is eye contact for a split second, and you’re left wondering if you’ll ever see him again.
It just doesn’t make sense to me — if you want something you should go get it, right?
When guys don’t make a move, it’s usually because they either don’t know how to read the (sometimes impossible to understand) cues women give, they don’t want to offend you, or because they’re just too scared to. If you notice your date isn’t getting as touchy or flirty as you want them to, the best way to get them to open up is to initiate contact yourself.
Unfortunately, many women don’t do this, which just ends up with both of you leaving the date horny and disappointed.
Fear of rejection is often a reason women don’t want to be the ones to get something going or to ask men on a date, but that shouldn’t stop you. The worst thing someone can do is say they’re not interested, and if that’s the case then you just move on! No harm no foul. There’s a 50/50 chance of you getting laid or going home to please yourself. I’d say there’s no loss there.
Also, a survey done by online dating site OkCupid says that women who sent the first message increase their chances of dating more attractive men and men they’re interested in. The results are likely to be as good, if not higher, in person, because that’s a rarity a lot of guys appreciate.
It’s so much easier to approach a guy online versus IRL, though. All you have to do is slide into the DMs and you’re pretty much set from there. Either they’ll curve you, and you can just move on without feeling the sting of rejection to your face, or they reciprocate the interest back and see where it goes from there.
Here are some tips to help you make a move on the guy you’ve been eyeing, or the next beautiful stranger you see.
1. Eye Contact
This move alone will make or break the entire thing.
We’ve all experienced super hot eye contact versus extremely awkward eye contact.
Eye-fucking is only cute when you’re in an appropriate setting, like the club where you’re both pretty drunk, and not in class, the store, the gym — pretty much anywhere else. You don’t want to stare into their soul either, and creep him out only to have him think “I need to get the fuck away from this person as fast as possible.”
Instead, give a glance that’s long enough for him to notice you’re looking at him, but short enough so that it’s not awkwardly long. When you catch their attention and your eyes lock for that split second, smile at him, too.
If you already know the guy you want to ask out or get in bed with, I’d do the same thing and do it a couple of times, so they know something is up because you’re looking at him more than usual.
2. Initiate Conversation
So now that you’ve made yourself known, it’s time to move past looking and do the talking.
If you’re across the room from him, find an excuse to get to his side of the room. If you’re in a grocery store, for example, and the guy you’re interested in so happens to be in the produce aisle checking out the avocados, make your way up to the avocados as well. You could comment on how ripe they’re looking (the avocados, I mean), or ask which recipes they love and go from there.
If you have class with him the situation is made that much easier for you. You see him a couple of times a week already, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to strike up a conversation. Maybe ask him something generic and simple, like about an assignment or if they understand what’s going on currently in the class.
3. Shoot Your Shot

Now, the thing you probably need most help with is how to take innocent small talk to asking him out or for their number — which brings me to mention that you should never outwardly ask if they’re DTF because you’re sure to scare him away says pornstar Shea Summers. That could make for a painfully awkward situation since you’ll most likely catch him off guard with a question like that. Instead, ask for their number first.
The thought of hitting on a guy might seem taboo and utterly terrifying — but trust me, it’s nowhere near as scary as it seems. All you have to do is smile and let your intention be known. If they say something you could turn into a flirty statemnt, they basically opened the door for you, so go for it! They’ll most likely be impressed and laugh a lil’ bit, which is always a plus with anybody.
But just like we learned in kindergarten, honesty is the best policy.
If you consider yourself to be lacking in smooth moves, are just too nervous to even think of something clever to say, or for anyone really, the best thing you could do is be upfront and straight to the point.
After you’ve had a little conversation, or if you’ve known this guy for a while and are tired of “just” talking, you should be direct about what you want.
Again, this doesn’t mean you should just outwardly say, “I want to fuck you,” unless you’re in the right setting where that wouldn’t be weird. But being straight up saves a lot of time of pointless conversation where you’re both waiting for someone to make a move and cuts to exactly what you want. You could say something along the lines of “I think you’re really cute and if you’re down, I’d like to hangout with you sometime.” If you’ve gone a while knowing this guy and are lost on how to ask for their number finally, you could say something casual during a conversation like, “Wait — Do I have your number? What is it?”
It doesn’t have to be awkward at all, and if you display confidence, he’ll like that bcause confidence is attractive.
Then, when you finally text him, you could now bring up sex or ask to go out on a date, depending what you’re looking for. To lead up to asking, you could make comments about how attractive you find him throughout your texts and flirt with him so they get the idea.
But the most important thing is to be clear about your intentions and let him know what’s up. If you’re just looking for casual sex, say that. If you’re interested in learning more about him and going on a date, say that. In a world where we like to beat around the bush, there’s no need for that here. Trust me, you’ll thank yourself and he probably will too.
With confidence and a vagina, you coud conquer the world! Now go off and conquer that boy you’ve been wanting!

How To Optimize Your Life, Relationship, and Happiness

There comes the point in our life where we want something more, whether we search for it in ourselves, love life or overall happiness and satisfaction in our everyday lives. If you’re looking to redefine and reassess your entirety, there are so many starting points to begin focusing on.

Making sure you’re getting the most out of your life is the majority of people’s goals so instead of getting discouraged get motivated to turn it all around and live the life you want. Optimizing your life and happiness comes down to the relationship you have with yourself, so accept, cherish and love your imperfections and flaws because they aren’t supposed to see as negative but original characteristics that make up the person you are.

1. Believe In Yourself and Your Abilities:

To be the best version of yourself you need to be your own best friend at times and biggest supporter. To love someone else healthy and functionally then you should have that same relationship with yourself. Believing in the person you are and capable of becoming in the future is an important realization one should have.

Push yourself to reach new limits and strive for the best because reaching your full potential will leave you feeling satisfied within, exerting your happiness to your other relationships and aspects of your life. Everyone can be insecure at times but choosing to change the anxiety to the excitement will differentiate the panic from passion towards life, giving you the ambition to follow your dreams and feel fulfilled.

2. Appreciation:

Show and say your appreciation on a daily basis even if it’s about the little things throughout it. Whether it’s a positive pep talk to yourself or reaching out to loved ones, it’s important to show your gratitude and appreciation. The more open and loving you are to the people around you as well as yourself, the more love that will come back around to you.

The good energy that you put out in the world will come back to you in some shape or form so refrain from any dysfunction or negativity you have in your life and instead exert your energy in all of the positive and uplifting contributions in your life. Be just as nice to yourself and others as you would want to be done to you, which is similar to the golden rule that most of us learned since day one.
3. Finding A Purpose:

Waking up and going to sleep with a purpose is the reason that many people continue living every day, so it’s important to find yours. Whether it is being a parent to your darling child or moving your way up in your company, your purpose is solely for you.

This motivating factor in your life will give you the reason to be the best you can be every day and increase your ambition of pursuing your goals. Many people find purpose in others, but it’s important to create a purpose for yourself and do things that make you happy instead of trying to find happiness in others.

If you want to learn more about how to make your life better, then check out the video below!